Public event

With: John Wenger and Darren Cheek

Date: to be confirmed

Time: 10.00am–12.30pm

Venue: Room 2, Elizabeth House, 39 York Road, Waterloo, London SE1 7NQ

Please note: this event was previously scheduled for 28 March 2020. Due to the coronavirus outbreak, we are rescheduling the event – date TBC. We will update this page with details of the new date and time as soon as we can.

About the topic

“I’ve been searching for ways to heal myself, and I’ve found that kindness is the best way.”

Lady Gaga

It’s one thing to invest ourselves deeply into caring for clients – but another challenge altogether to extend this into our everyday lives. Maybe we are behaving differently outside of the consulting room? Perhaps we are not acting kindly ‘enough’, or caring ‘appropriately’ for others, and/or for ourselves? 

Or maybe we feel we are already ‘doing enough’, maybe our care/kindness tank feels like it is ‘already full’, and maybe at points we even feel like we’re verging on ‘compassion fatigue’…?

Or perhaps there’s a little more room for us all to be kinder, more open, more giving and, of course, more receiving?

Join John Wenger and Darren Cheek as they discuss and explore the concept of kindness and if (and how) as therapists we can extend this more – beyond our consulting rooms? 

To what extent are we rationing kindness in our own lives? What ripples for others, our communities and, even, ourselves could we create with an even more abundant mindset? And is that even possible?

How might we connect with those we struggle to feel compassion for? With those with whom we vehemently disagree with, in these divisive times? Even with our nearest and dearest that we may inadvertently overlook as needing some kindly nourishment? 

Taking the premise that there is no ‘them and us’, but only us – what if one of the most radical acts we could undertake in our lives was actually small and simple? Showing more kindness.

This interactive session will draw on the collective wisdom and experience of all who attend, along with pragmatic ideas as to how we might pay forward outside of the consulting room – with the aim of fostering connection and inspirations. In turn, hopefully we may then go on with a raised and energised consciousness in the practice of kind and loving compassion towards others and ourselves.

About John Wenger

John began his career as a psychotherapist back in the late 90s and now blends over 30 years’ experience as a psychotherapist, educator and organisational consultant to all of what he does.

His starting point for his work is a positive outlook on the world and humanity. He also brings endless curiosity about how humans learn and change. He is interested in how we humans can co-create joyful, life-giving ways of being and inter-being.

He believe absolutely that anyone can learn and change, having worked with a wide range of people from many walks of life and with varied life stories.

When he co-created his consultancy business back in 2003, he and his business partner came up with the name Quantum Shift, being fascinated with the notion that ‘quantum’ can mean both the smallest thing and the biggest thing.  Still, to this day, he believes that when it comes to being a catalyst in the world, the smallest actions and non-actions can often create the biggest ripples. 

He views his work as a political act and believes that real, long-lasting and significant change can happen one conversation at a time, one kind act at a time.

About Darren Cheek

Darren works internationally as an integrative humanistic psychotherapist and counsellor – with adults, children, young people and families. As well as maintaining a busy private practice, Darren works regularly alongside businesses and schools, and has been a tutor/trainer within the NHS for over 22 years.

A core/guest tutor and trainer on various courses throughout the UK, Darren continues to be invited regularly to lecture abroad. In 2009 he was based in Pakistan, where he taught integrative humanistic counselling to international students at certificate and diploma levels, while also working in a residential rehabilitation centre as an art/drama psychotherapist.

In his not-quite-so ‘other’ life, Darren regularly works as an actor, writer and director, as well as an actor-roleplayer, communication trainer and facilitator. 

Artistic Director of Damn Cheek, Darren continues to explore the relationships between politics, social conscience, therapy and theatre, and is a passionate advocate of the ripple effect.

About the Coffeelogue

For those new to this event, the Coffeelogue is a space where we get together to learn and socialise, meet some new colleagues and find out what others are up to, as well as digest new ideas over coffee and croissant.

The term ‘Coffeelogue’ was coined by Doron and Darren, to depict both causal and deep space that can occur in short and informal settings.

We hope to learn together and from each other in the form of a casual learning community in a friendly atmosphere with the added fun of late morning coffee/tea and pastry.

(And of course for all you health freaks like us there will be alternative surprises…)

The added bonus is that we structure it as a CPD event so you’ll be able to count it as CPD hours (a CPD certificate will be provided as well).


10am–10.30am: Coffee/croissant/meet etc

10.30am–11.15am: Presentation

11.15am–12.30pm: Writing, sharing and discussion

Booking information

Please note: this event was previously scheduled for 28 March 2020. Due to the coronavirus outbreak, we are rescheduling the event – date TBC. We will update this page with details of the new date and time as soon as we can.

Places are:

  • free for Relational Spaces members
  • £15 for non-members

Relational Spaces members

Book your free spot by emailing us at


Places cost £15.

Cancellation policy: please note that for non-members we do not offer refunds for our Coffeelogue events.

How to book

To confirm your booking please email us at and we will reply with details of how to pay.

Please use your name + CL9 as reference.

We look forward to seeing you there!

Warm regards,

Darren, Dianne, Doron and Cressy

07848 013 328
07426 336 322

Photos: Doron Levene