We hope you can join us for this free session about The Torn Project, a new initiative exploring how we can navigate inner conflict and find balance.
With: Susan Quilliam
Date: Sunday 16 November 2025
Time: 10am–1pm
Venue: Relational Spaces, Mulberry Room, Langdale House, 11 Marshalsea Road, London SE1 1EN (2 min walk from Borough Station)
About the topic
Susan Quilliam writes:
In the depths of Covid, it seemed that every day, everyone was challenged by which direction to take. Stay in or go out? See friends, stay alone? Wear a mask, breathe freely? Break the rules, be obedient?
The weight of this kind of inner conflict made me search for resources to help those struggling with these life or death decisions. As an ‘oldtimer’ at Relationship Spaces, I knew about many deep therapeutic approaches… but I could find little available for people who simply wanted to find their right direction in work, love and life in an increasingly complex and difficult world. Worse, there seemed to be a climate of shame if one hesitated. “Make your mind up… stop wobbling… pull yourself together.”
Along with colleagues Caitlin Cockerton and James Knight, I began a search for answers. Not for The Answer or any kind of prescriptive guidance. Instead, we put out a general call to anyone experiencing inner conflict, anyone supporting someone experiencing inner conflict, and anyone with specialist insight – not only psychological and therapeutic, but scientific, artistic, philosophical. All engagement welcome. And, hopefully, the start of a crucial worldwide conversation.
The Torn Project has now gathered a range of viewpoints, stories, approaches. We’ve done over 100 extended research interviews, gathered a database of 1,500 helpful concepts, created an image project, launched on Instagram, delivered courses on the topic at Cambridge University. At time of writing we are finalising our website and podcast season as resources for all things inner conflict. By the time of this Pluralogue we will have done a full 4 years of exploration and hope to have been fully public for several months.
This Pluralogue will explain what The Torn Project does, report in on our research, explain the new models that have emerged from our work, and invite you to join a conversation as to how therapeutic practitioners could benefit – and contribute.
For a taste of what we do please visit us on Instagram @thetornproject. Our website is at www.thetornproject.com.
About Susan Quilliam
Susan Quilliam has long been a member of Relational Spaces, based at the King’s Cross rooms.
She works as a relationship coach, facilitator and writer, helping individuals and couples resolve the challenges of loving human connection.
Following the Covid pandemic, her focus has also been on starting and then developing The Torn Project.
About our Pluralogues
For those new to this event, the Pluralogue is a space where we get together to both learn and socialise, meet some new colleagues and find out what others are up to.
The term ‘Pluralogue’ was coined by Doron many years ago, to depict moving beyond monologue to dialogue: to pluralogue (the conversation of many). We hope to learn together and from each other in the form of a learning community in a friendly atmosphere.
The added bonus is that we structure it as a CPD event so you will be able to count it as CPD hours (a CPD certificate will be provided as well).
Booking information
Places for this Pluralogue are free of charge. To reserve your place, please email us at therapyroomsuk@gmail.com.
We look forward to seeing you there!
Warm regards,
Dianne, Doron and Cressy
07426 336 322
Image © Doron Levene